Friday, June 1, 2012

Hello BLOG!  My name is Judith, I'm sorry I haven't spoken to you in two years.  I apologize.  But life has changed A LOT since I have spoken to you. 

I still have two kids, one boy, one girl.

I am now, unfortunately, a statistic.  I am divorced :(

I am also NOT in my twenty's anymore (yikes, how did THAT happen).

I live at home (as is my childhood home)..with my mom..AND I'm in my thirties...Seriously, how did that happen!!

I work full-time for a local real estate company and I love it.

I am 25 pounds lighter..thanks stupid Divorce Diet!

I might be slightly obsessed with the British boy band One Direction..AND I'm in my thirties...

I am completely and utterly IN LOVE with fashion, decorating, making, re-finishing, decorating, clothes, etc.,etc.

My life has drastically changed in the last two years.  I am in a new season.  A season in life were for the first time in my life I am single and trying to figure out how to raise two kids on my own and thanking God for all the blessings that he has given us. 

I have a new plan for this blog.  I am still going to show projects that I have worked on but also use this blog as a way to chronicle my journey as a single (with very limited funds) mom and hopefully give encouragement to others who have been through the same situation as I.

Disclaimer:  sometimes I will use humor to make fun of my life situations. Sorry, but that is how I roll!

Judith





Monday, November 1, 2010

Somber post

Well Blog world, I have been gone for a couple of months. Life has been tough. When I started this blog, my intentions were to share, create ideas. WEll, as life would have it , He had other plans for me.

This is not easy to talk about for me. But talking about this to complete strangers who really don't know me actually makes me feel better. My husband and I have seperated.

We have been married for five years and together for nearly 12. The day before our five year anniversary, he informed me that he longer wanted to be married to me. This did not come as a complete shock. We have been going through a tough patch in our marriage ever since his father was in a bad accident. He has been re-thinking the path that his life should have taken. He has been struggling with his faith, his commitment to me.

I do not feel the same way. YOu see, two years ago, my father passed away from alcohol poisoning. He had been an alcoholic most of my life and about seven years before he passed, he had been completely sober. The last year of his life, he relapsed and had fallen into a deep depression. My family encouraged him to go to rehab, seek counseling but as anybody who has ever dealt with someone with an abuse problem, you cannot force someone to do something they are not willing to do.

My grandmother passed away on December 17, 2008 (my mother's mom). My grandmother lived in Mexico so my mother flew immediately to be there for her wake and funeral. My dad decided not to go. For what ever reason, he decided to stay. My personal belief was that he did not want to deal with her death, you see, my grandmother was like the mother my dad always wanted. His mother is the devil. I do not even consider her my grandmother. She is a spiteful woman who lives to make everyone around her miserable.

Since the moment my mother left, he began drinking. And i was left solely responsible to take care of him. At the time, my son was ten months old and my husband worked full time. On the day my dad passed, December 22, 2008, I had just had enough. I knew that he was slowly killing himself and no matter what I did or said, he just didn't care. I got to a point were I said, Enough is Enough. So that day, I checked on him in the morning (he was at his house) and he was still alive. I did not try to wake him from his sleep because as before, I knew that the longer he sleeped, the alcohol would go through his system.

At 4:30pm I got the call that no person should EVER get. My little brother had come into town to spend Christmas at home. When he got to the house, he found my dad on the floor not breathing. I immediately told him to hang up and call 911. My husband, my son, and I jumped into our car and drove to my parents house. It was the longest 10 minutes of my life. I sat in that car in a state of shock. I kept praying to God that my dad be okay, but somehow I knew that he wasn't. When I got there, I knew that my dad was gone. I entered the house and the EMT told me I'm Sorry and honestly, I didn't hear anything else I ran past her and found my brother and just comforted him. I blamed myself for a long time for his death. I kept asking myself, "what if I had just gone back to the house? What if Ihad tried to wake him up?" I became distant from my family, friends, and most importantly, my husband. I shut everyone out.

YOu see, after my dad died, I started questioning were my life was heading and I was unhappy with the direction. I didn't know how I was going to change it, but I knew that I wanted change. And I prayed. It is funny how God answers your prayers when you need it most. YOu see, on my dad's one year passing, December 22, 2009 at 5:12pm, my daughter was born. So instead on being one of the sadest days in our family, it has become a day of celebrating the life of my father and my daughter. God is so good that way!

I started to feel like myself again. But in this time, my husband began distancing himself from me. He became angry and irritated, nothing like the man I have known. And after his father's accident, my life changed once again.

This has become such a long post and I could keep writting, but I am tired and I have two small children I have to take care of in the morning. I will continue the rest this week, I promise.

Friday, September 10, 2010

Baby Shower

I am throwing my very first baby shower! OMG!!! I mean, I am so excited but at the same time, so stinking nervous. I have sooo many ideas. I am also putting together the invitations. WHen I am done, I will post it here. I am so stinking excited!!

The shower is for one of my super good friends who is having her first baby. She threw me my shower for my second and she did such a good job! I feel so lucky to be able to help throw her shower party!

Stay tuned for all the details....

Judith

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

The easiest project EVER!!!

Well, I'm convinced that what I am about to show you it the easiest project that I have ever done! It literally took only like 5 minutes! AND cost only 4 bucks!


First, I have to tell you that I have an unhealthy relationship with vinyl. I love it! I want to put it on everything. Walls, furniture, wood. You name it, I want to do it! Now, my dilemma starts with the fact that the hubs and I rent a house and if anyone out there has ever used vinyl, well, once it goes on a wall, it is going to stay on a wall. So, as a renter, I had to find a way to use my love of vinyl in a less permanent way. So this is what I picked up at Joann's for 80% off! Yes, 80% off! I saw the clearance sign and I almost bought everything they had (which in my town is a lot, we have a Joann's Superstore).


This is it. I loves it from the moment I saw it. I stored it for like 2 months until I could decide what to do with it. I knew I wanted to make it into a mirror of some kind but having a mirror cut to a specific size is super, duper expensive. ANd well, this blog IS called the Thrifty Gal. So I stared at it. Dreamt about it. And one day the heavens opened up. We had just moved into our house and the hubs and I were having a yard sale. My MIL decided she was going to bring over a couple things that she no longer needed. And that is when I saw it. In all its round, glass glory!




To some, this mirror might be "garbage city," but to me, it screamed potential! THe best part people, is that it was FREE! Yup my MIL just gave it to me, she did not want it. Don't you love that word! Well, it wasn't a completely clean mirror. Please note the 1970's edged flowers on it.




Aren't they just beautiful?!! (Heavy sarcasm here).

So anywho, next step was to clean it with a little windex. Apply the vinyl (just follow the instructions on the package, it is sooo easy).





And the finished project! Honestly, after I applied the vinyl, you could barely see the flowers on the mirror. Isn't it great! Turned out better than I had imagined!





Now, my next dilemma, where do I hang it up! Currently, it is in my bedroom but it doesn't feel right. Stay tuned to see where I put it.
Judith
















Saturday, September 4, 2010

Introducing myself..

Hello blog world!

I just wanted to tell you a little about myself and the reason I started blogging. I am a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister. I love to write and since having kids, well, I don't really get to do it much these days!

But the real reason I started blogging was because I LOVEEE to make things, I LOVEEE to take old things and make them new, I LOVEEE how other women in the blog world love to share their ideas and inspire me, and last but not least, I LOVEEE to decorate!

My goal with blogging is too share my ideas with others and maybe inspire someone to create something! Occasionally, you will also see me talk about raising a two and a half year old and a 8 month old while trying to balance a part time job and marriage!

I promise I will try to update as much as I can (well, when I am not so super tired anyways!).

Have a great day!